Or believe that her cousin has a terminal kidney failure that requires a kidney transplant, Oanh rides a bus nearly 300 km from Ca Mau to Ho Chi Minh City to donate her kidneys to save her.
In the summer of 2020, while working as a safety monitor at a container port, Mr. Vo Hai Au, 34 years old, living in Ben Tre, felt his health deteriorated. There were long weeks, he was sluggish, restless, sleepless, and did not eat well. From 83 kg, he lost to more than 60 kg within a few months.
At the University of Medicine and Pharmacy Hospital in Ho Chi Minh City, the doctor diagnosed him with end-stage chronic kidney failure. The man who used to have stature like a powerhouse gradually became exhausted, and all his personal activities became difficult. You stand in front of two choices. Or go to a hemodialysis hospital every other day, depend on life on dialysis, or have a kidney transplant but have to take anti-rejection drugs for life.
Doctors advise, if hemodialysis, health declines faster day by day due to complications related to end-stage kidney disease. The most dangerous is the nine-fold increased risk of death from cardiovascular disease, compared with people without kidney failure and dialysis.
The big family met, put two plans on the table to calculate, plus the consultation of the doctors, they decided to choose the kidney transplant option.
The source of organs from brain donors is inherently rare, cannot wait. His only brother and his biological father, wife and father-in-law voluntarily went for the tests, willing to donate kidneys to Au. His mother is old, in weak health, is not eligible for testing. Unfortunately, no one matches the results.
“I was shocked, I found life extremely deadlocked,” Au remembers.
At the same time, in Ca Mau, 51-year-old Tran Thi Oanh (Oanh’s mother and Au’s father are sisters) knew that her cousin was seriously ill. She called Nam Diep Auntie, his mother Au blamed “why did the whole family go for the test but did not report the child to come?”. The middle-aged woman was anxious at the thought of her dim future and her grandson who had just turned a year.
“Tomorrow I go to Saigon to check, be careful, I will give you one”, Ms. Oanh promised by phone.
Said to do, she took the bus to Ho Chi Minh City to check. Luckily, test metrics are compatible. The two sisters went to the operating table on November 7, 2020. Ms. Oanh gave Au the right kidney.
Professor and doctor Tran Ngoc Sinh, a professional advisor at the University of Medicine and Pharmacy Hospital in Ho Chi Minh City, who directly treated Mr. Au, said that the operation was more time-consuming and difficult than usual, but safe and successful. public. When the surgeon removes the clamp, the patient has urine on the operating table. This moment makes the doctors burst of happiness.
Only three days after surgery, Oanh was settled and discharged from the hospital. Anh Au was hospitalized for 11 days. In the first months of convalescence, the two sisters lived in the same house of Mr. Au for convenient care and re-examination. They live together again like childhood days. About two and a half months after the surgery, they returned to their almost normal routine. Particularly, Mr. Au had a serious episode of pneumonia, so the recovery process slowed a bit.
Sharing about the decision to donate kidneys, Oanh calmly said that she thought simply “it is you, if you see me dead but can’t save it, how can I”. Husband and four children worried, wanted her to think more but could not conquer the determination of the Western woman, so they agreed.
On the day she arrived at the hospital for major kidney surgery, she “forbade” her husband and children to accompany her, “forced” her husband to go to work normally in her hometown because she was afraid they were impatient and crying. Lying alone in the middle of the operating room, apart from feeling a bit cold and loving you, she is not afraid. Meanwhile, in the countryside, her husband confided to her children, “Well, if the mother is weaker tomorrow, I will take care of it”.
Anh Au is in a fierce tension. He said he was “very grateful” because his cousin gave him the opportunity to live a healthy life, to support his children with his wife, to show honor to his aging parents. On the other hand, he feared that sharing a part of his body and life would make Oanh sick and sick in the future.
“It’s like harming you,” he said. While lying in isolation waiting for surgery, every couple of days, Mr. Au asked again, if she thought about it again, he would ask the doctor to stop the operation immediately. Consistent first and later, Oanh encouraged her brother “to think no more. I’m poor, I don’t have money for you. Now I have nothing, I give you that”.
“Aunt Nam I was very hesitant. She said asking for money, asking for silver, asking for a chicken, a duck … it’s easy, here you go to ask for your kidneys. but I brushed it off, “recalled Oanh.
Up to now, Ms. Oanh’s health is stable, although she has not fully recovered as before surgery. The children love their mother, suggest that they stay at home to take care of them all the time, and do not allow them to do housework. The kidney transplant function also improved and functioned well. Anh Au gained weight, ruddy face, every day walking and exercising for more than 10 km does not matter. He plans to rest for a few more months and then go back to work.
“You gave birth to me again. I will live worthy of her special gift”, Mr. Au shared.