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“I have never sneaked into the wall or even slammed a door”: to each his teenage crisis

“I should have revolted a little”


40 years old, Paris

“I was a very wise teenager. I never rebelled. I have never gone into the wall or even slammed a door. On the contrary, I was very obedient. When I heard my girlfriends threatening their parents to run away, I felt out of place. Like all teenagers, I lived the transformations of this age but I did not externalize what I felt.

My little sister was easily opposed to my parents. I didn’t like conflict. Maybe I didn’t have time to have my meltdown because I went to boarding school in second grade and left home at 18. Thinking about it, I tell myself that I should have revolted a little. It might have done me a favor in my adult life. I see it with my parents. They are so used to not seeing me rush into the stretchers that as soon as I challenge what they say, they take it badly. »

“I didn’t know where my place was”


24 years old, Calais

“I would say that I had two teenage crises, even if the notion is subjective. Around the age of 13, while I was studying at the conservatory, I started to dress in an “emo” way (a style of punk music, editor’s note), with dark clothes and to let my hair grow . Looking back, I think it was a way of standing out, of not having that slick image of an “intello” studying at the conservatory. My musical tastes have also changed: I went from Sexion d’Assault to Metallica.

My second identity change took place in high school: this time, I started following the band of “rebels”, who smoked joints and didn’t work much at school. I really needed to belong to a collective because I felt like I didn’t know where I belonged and I felt a lot of loneliness.

Today, I know who I am a little better, but I wouldn’t say that my questions about my place in society are over. I believe this is the fight of a lifetime. »

“I wanted to assert myself”

Mickaël, 17 years old, Paris

“To tell the truth, I don’t have the impression of having experienced a ‘teenage crisis’. But the evocation of the expression by my parents to constantly reproach me makes me think that I have indeed passed through this phase.

In fact, at 13-14 years old, we want to assert ourselves, to detach ourselves from the education and principles that our parents instilled in us. I, for example, didn’t agree with the idea that the house should always be tidy, in case someone came to visit us. I consider that our home is our space and that it is up to visitors to adapt.

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