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“How’s the first time?” “By Apolline Guichet: facing the torments of adolescence

Over “80 existential questions” asked by high school students (1), Apolline Guichet, journalist for the magazine Phosphorus (Bayard), helps sometimes confused adolescents to face the torments of their age. “Ocean of questions, deluge of doubts … a period of transition, discovery and self-quest, adolescence gives rise to a thousand questions”, explains the one who uses, always with finesse, the delicate game of advice on the body, love and sexuality. His point of view – nourished by reading child sex books – is supplemented by testimonies from teenagers, a bit like Internet forums.

But unlike what can be found just a click away, if the questions are free and unvarnished, the answers always strike the right tone. Where often this kind of exercise turns into an anatomy lesson worthy of an SVT course or falls into a somewhat easy youthism, nothing like it from the pen of Apolline Guichet. A bit like a big sister, she supports and reassures: yes, asking all kinds of questions is normal, but you can also take time to find the answers. Yes, we can not find ourselves in the often caricatured representations of teenagers. Yes, what really matters is the emotional relationship.

A generation exposed to new questions

For parents, the interest of this book is also to open a window on a generation exposed to new questions. Gender, omnipresence of pornography… It is undoubtedly more complicated for the adolescents of today to navigate there vis-a-vis the range of possibilities than for the preceding generations. Also, the questions are striking for their diversity. On the one hand, the great classics, blue and modest flowers (“There is a boy in my class that I like. How to please him? “ or “How do you get over a rake?” “). On the other hand, sometimes very straightforward questions linked to digital technology (“Does virtual love exist? “) or gender (“How do you know if you’re gay, bi or straight?” “).

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All show the need for an accompaniment of intimacy at this sensitive age, for which, too often, pornography has become the only “source of information” for lack of real courses of sexual and emotional education in college and high school. . The three annual hours officially requested are, in fact, far from always being completed.


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