Life Style

Adolescence, group age

Teens like to be in groups and be like their friends. They like to experiment with ways of doing things and the values ​​that go with them. Transgress too, yes, but with a group of alter ego, in the company of peers, who make them feel secure. During the Covid period, they sometimes do not wear a mask, touch each other, kiss each other … Even though it is forbidden or dangerous, and even because it is. To many, it seems easier, funnier. And that reinforces the identity of the group. Taking risks in adolescence is often a necessary step to feel like you are, to feel you exist, to test your own limits.

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Between them, teens recreate familiarity and new standards. They experiment with forms in common. They dress a little the same, like the same things and do them together. This reassures them and allows them to differentiate themselves also as a collective and, beyond that, as a generation.

Filiation and affiliation

This phenomenon of belonging to groups, a necessary stage of empowerment / individuation, of separation from parents, is called affiliation. Building your own affiliations (they are plural) is the big business of adolescence. Affiliations and filiation (kinship relationship that unites two generations) allow the construction of the identity of the teenager, his singularity. To happen, he must be able to weave his filiation and his affiliations together. Make its own weaving with the threads of its history and its generation.

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In fact, adolescents sometimes have several groups of belonging where a part of themselves is expressed in turn. For children who belong to several histories, like the children of migrants, the groups of belonging reflect this multiplicity: they are interested in things that come to them from their parents, belong to groups here, made up of their friends. , and may also have other references, such as rappers from the United States, who represent a certain otherness with which to identify …

Groups sometimes chosen against parents

Being a teenager means joining groups that you have chosen, sometimes versus parents, who see them as a bad influence. Which they are not, generally, even if they defend values ​​different from those of the parents. These affiliations, in reality, are a part of themselves and help them find themselves and tell a unique story.

From time to time, their desire to belong to a group makes them meet young people who take them on dead-end paths such as the use of drugs, illicit and dangerous. But what is at stake here is the vulnerability of young people who need to go so far to feel they exist and who need to learn to be stronger, to resist what can harm them. In short, to protect themselves.

Most of the time, in any case, the will to evolve within a group is not a matter of influence or gregariousness. This is part of a search for belonging to build oneself as a unique individual but linked to others. This is how the link to oneself and to others is built.


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